What looks are to men, confidence Is to women. Like when you see a hot woman, you as a man are like i got to have her, same is to women but with confidence in a man, they got to have you.Looks can get you in the door but if you have no confidence, looks do not matter.

"Dad bod" is just them associating that look with the middle-aged, stable, financially well off, confident and (often) married men they desire.

They might want a dad bod 35 year old over a 20 year old gym rat. But they'd take a fit dad over a dad bod dad.

(07-27-2022 3:24 AM)Enjayee Wrote:  "Dad bod" is just them associating that look with the middle-aged, stable, financially well off, confident and (often) married men they desire.

Maybe for some women but I know there are some women who really feel more sexually attracted to a dad bod compared to a fit bod. Maybe those women are somewhat rare but they do exist.

People have a tendency to genialize and think all women think the same. Each woman is an individual with her own preferences and personality.

The more emotionally damaged women and women with low self-esteem/confidence/self-worth go for the fat dad bods.

(07-29-2022 10:10 AM)RTBoss Wrote:  The more emotionally damaged women and women with low self-esteem/confidence/self-worth go for the fat dad bods.

Some women like the feeling of a dad bod better than a fit bod while cuddling.

Whether fit or dad bod fit, developing confidence is a big key. Looks is just one part of the larger equation in attraction albeit I would not undermine it’s importance. In general, take care of yourself, be well groomed, exercise, smell good, and don’t dress like a bum are good habits to follow. I follow the old adage, “Always be ready so you don’t have to get ready,” because the game is usually always on, at least for me, you’ll never know where you would run into something. No matter how you look or what you got, you can always enhance yourself in so many ways and put yourself in the best position to succeed.

I've been chatting with girls from Tinder and Bumble lately. There were a lot of girls who lost interest. A woman lost interest after finding out I don't have a car. The other woman lost interest because I didn't ask for her number to set up the meeting, but because I asked for her Instagram. Yesterday another woman lost interest because I asked a Turkish/Greek woman "Do you feel more Turkish or Greek culturally?"She said she finds the question silly even though other women have responded well to it. Although our chat and vibes were good before.

Now the question is, why are most women very resentful and don't make a second change? Why do women look at small negative flaws when they have seen more positive qualities, good looks, humor from me? Why are women very demanding?

I'm so interested in whether women lose interest in men just as quickly when the man looks really attractive. I want to find out. I haven't been doing bodybuilding for 2 months, I've been doing martial arts. If I look more attractive and lose interest over small things, then I have a big ego. That's why I would like to know if very good looks + muscles + good clothes can help so that women don't lose interest over such small things.

(08-15-2022 4:26 PM)Mertos89 Wrote:  I've been chatting with girls from Tinder and Bumble lately. There were a lot of girls who lost interest. A woman lost interest after finding out I don't have a car. The other woman lost interest because I didn't ask for her number to set up the meeting, but because I asked for her Instagram. Yesterday another woman lost interest because I asked a Turkish/Greek woman "Do you feel more Turkish or Greek culturally?"She said she finds the question silly even though other women have responded well to it. Although our chat and vibes were good before.

Now the question is, why are most women very resentful and don't make a second change? Why do women look at small negative flaws when they have seen more positive qualities, good looks, humor from me? Why are women very demanding?

I'm so interested in whether women lose interest in men just as quickly when the man looks really attractive. I want to find out. I haven't been doing bodybuilding for 2 months, I've been doing martial arts. If I look more attractive and lose interest over small things, then I have a big ego. That's why I would like to know if very good looks + muscles + good clothes can help so that women don't lose interest over such small things.

It's a good thing that they kept on losing interest quickly.... It's good for you because they keep on weeding themselfs out and you'll eventually find the one keeping.

There are so many things that goes on in a women's head, trying to understand it will make you insane. There is only so much you can do to keep a woman interested. That's why you just stick those you click with,without putting too much effort.

That's why when I wear pheromone, I wear ones that compliment me rather than change me. If a girl is interested in me, I'll make sure it's the real me rather than the fake version.

Aka Be comfortable in your own skin and the pussy will fall from the sky. That's why I find question like these are so mundane. I have a big ass and as of late a visible gut but that didn't stop me from sleeping with one two days ago and getting a 2 numbers in the morning today. I just have high standard and after showing them a little interest and confidence and let them work for you attention.

The problem with guys lately is they show the woman how very invested in her from the start , before she opens her mouth. This tells her she doesn't need to put an effort to keep you interested. No, you have to make her work for it.

I always follow the 3 second rule so I don't think too much before the approach. I spot one I'm interested in physically,I approach and voila , whatever happens .

But then again I do exclusive day time approaches. no alcohol, no nothing. The moment you open your mouth , how confident, comfortable, and hour state of mind will be noticeable the first 30 seconds, and I feel like 2 minutes is enough to decide if she's worthy enough for you to spend even more time with or no. You can call this arrogance, ego, doesn't matter, it's been working for me for so many years. Also pheromones make it easier. I kinda dig Alpha social pheromones rather than anything sexual .

(08-15-2022 4:26 PM)Mertos89 Wrote:  I've been chatting with girls from Tinder and Bumble lately. There were a lot of girls who lost interest. A woman lost interest after finding out I don't have a car. The other woman lost interest because I didn't ask for her number to set up the meeting, but because I asked for her Instagram.

I'm thinking that's an aspect of the online dating culture, these women get hundreds of dm's a day so it's pretty easy to discard people for dumb reasons. The point of Tinder, etc. imo is to lock down a date ASAP. The more messages, the greater the chance she'll lose interest.

Probably it's also an almost mathematical matter. Or evolutional.

With who will I make a realistic chance?

When a person is having a so-called hard body itself, it's more believable that they could hook up with another person with a hard body.

When a person is in it's fourthies, a little chubby, a little wrinkled, a little marked by life, it's normally not likely that they would hook up with a person with a 20-something super fit fit body.

No use to put any energy (or endless energy) in trying to hook up with a person, which is unlikely to hook up with.

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Pheromones, but also make-up/nice haircut/nice clothes/nice smell, could help to a certain point, to extend the range. (Probably with pheromones as some sort of stronger version of make-up, since it is broadening the range quite far, if you use them well.)

But, as I see the populations of all pheromones forums, it's mostly men who wear these, so concerning the original question: women mostly use the visual + perfum aids, which are less strong. (So the range is less extended, so women assess that they have lesser chances.)