(12-07-2017 8:36 PM)WestCoastMm Wrote:  It might, if I wanted to try it, but I'll be honest, I am not emotionally invested anymore anywhere near enough to even consider bothering to do something like that.

As for porn, yep, but it blows (oh yar har~ see what I did there?) my mind that anyone would consistently prefer to jerk off instead of having a warm, responsive body right there...calling your name. I mean WTF? But that's just me. Again, something that, after all these years, I no longer have the incentive or motivation to try to discover anymore.

Especially not when there are so many men out there and they're just so *naturally* responsive. It's wonderful, actually. I am biding my time. When you're invested in a marriage and actively closing yourself off at any turn to accepting or feeling anything from anyone else you forget how many absolutely amazing guys are out there, let's hear it for the boys. <3

In that case mate, go all in. Just me humble suggestion but, use protection!!! With the sweet smell of nice cops, and the curves ya have that that nurse described, I'd say u'll have a good time.

We only live once mate. And live it to ur optimum level. So have a little fun. Loosen up. Lol. PLUS the weekend is almost here.

Western Gal:

Sounds like you have several options:

1.Stay where you're unhappy and do nothing for the kids.
2.Get him and you into counseling and
try to work things out. Find out why he dislikes you,
if that really is the case. What is he angry about?
Maybe hes unhappy with how life turned out.
We all go through that phase.
Maybe as BDB put it, he is addicted to porn.
It can desensitize a man to real life sex.
counselor might help with that.
3. Try for the open marriage talk again
4. Find a fwb which can get sticky if you become
romantically involved. This is a behind the back thang.
5. Drive a couple towns away and pick up a ons,
no strings attached ta settle them thar urges.
Every once in awhile for your sanity.
6. Get divorced. Based on your situation,
it appears this might not be a choice.

Options 1 through 3 should be tried, but always
need to consider 4 and 5

Get a divorce and get on with your life.

How many more years are you willing to waste?

So I've decided to try LMPM Like A Magnet...I will report on my journal. Just ordered it, it should take about two weeks.

(12-08-2017 11:39 AM)RussianWolf Wrote:  Get a divorce and get on with your life.

How many more years are you willing to waste?

This...get out ASAP. What kinda man isn’t trying to get his dick wet? Must suck to be him.

Thanks Dick!

(12-08-2017 11:39 AM)RussianWolf Wrote:  Get a divorce and get on with your life.

How many more years are you willing to waste?

I think a divorce is a bad option considering all the circumstances. No easy solution. Lets hope WestCoastMm can get pheromones to work on him.

Yeah no easy solution. ASAP meaning a few years possibly. How many guys have been told to leave sexless relationships here? Quite a few haha. It goes both ways.

There’s In-Da-Mood by liquid alchemy labs sold by S1ck jewelry too, but there are no review on it anywhere.

I’m going off topic. Apologies.

(12-07-2017 8:36 PM)WestCoastMm Wrote:  As for porn, yep, but it blows (oh yar har~ see what I did there?) my mind that anyone would consistently prefer to jerk off instead of having a warm, responsive body right there...calling your name. I mean WTF? But that's just me. Again, something that, after all these years, I no longer have the incentive or motivation to try to discover anymore.

This is common these days with high bandwidth porn. The novelty areas of the brain get hijacked. A man can look at 50 different explicit videos with different women during a masturbation session and constantly seek out the perfect woman to finish to.

He will need to realize that he has an addiction that is just like a cocaine addiction. Then he will need to break away from porn for months before he returns to normal.

You cannot tell him that he has an addiction though. He will just get pissed off and that will make things worse. He needs to realize this on his own.

(12-08-2017 1:58 PM)metaltree Wrote:  This is common these days with high bandwidth porn. The novelty areas of the brain get hijacked. A man can look at 50 different explicit videos with different women during a masturbation session and constantly seek out the perfect woman to finish to.

He will need to realize that he has an addiction that is just like a cocaine addiction. Then he will need to break away from porn for months before he returns to normal.

You cannot tell him that he has an addiction though. He will just get pissed off and that will make things worse. He needs to realize this on his own.

Yes, absolutely agree with that last part. Why SHOULD he change? And all my crying and yelling and/or calmly producing "This is You and Your Porn Addiction" links won't do a thing so it is my hope that if we still can't afford divorce in the coming (har har! Okay, never mind) years he will agree that we should each seek our own satisfaction. I mean he's obviously already seeking his and is happy with it: jerking off to endless porn. I haven't found mine: happy, mutually appreciative actual sex with an actual in-the-room carbon-based biped...a for realz human. So...working on it...

Meanwhile I think I stated this here but I'm not sure...I ordered some LPMP Like A Magnet so I'm not just doing (oh! Just can't stop being funny here) just the cops. We shall see and I will keep everyone who is interested posted! Thanks for all the answers.

ETA: By the way...even in this day of immediately accessible, free multiple "perfect woman" images there are still, from what I can tell, not just a few but *a majority* of men who would rather, if they can, have a real, breathing woman in bed. So it still is an individual thing...and it still is his choice. I've spent more than a decade begging him to make a different choice and all I am is a nag so it's obvious he doesn't want to change. It is what it is. I do agree with the explanation for certain people, though, people like my husband. Not disagreeing at all with that, just updating on my situation and I appreciate the help and input.