RE: There is one hierachy greater than Alpha
04-28-2022 10:50 AM
Leave it to the PUA community to take a label based upon false assumptions, distort it into a laughable stereotype that's actually detrimental to picking up women, and then, create another ill-begotten label to compound the original errors.
But wait, Gladen, you say, you are so utterly full of shit! I know, I know, but hear me out on this, then tell me to fuck the hell off.
The concept of the Alpha Male was originally coined by David Mech in the 1970's when he was studying wolves in captivity. He perceived the hierarchy as one-wolf-to-rule-them-all.
Because everyone wants to believe that they are the big, king, hot shit, that gets the lion's share of the bounty, The PUA areas fixated upon it. After all, it explains why you suck with women. Only the "Alpha Male" gets the chicks, the riches, the success, the whatever.
Never mind the fact that Dr. Mech realized that his conclusions were greatly erroneous. When he studied wolves in the wild, he realized that what he had perceived, and published in a book, as the Alpha Male Wolf lording over the others through intimidation and strength, was patently false. In the wild, wolf packs were heralded by both a male and female. He discovered that wolves form their own packs when they mate and what he initially assumed was an Alpha male was actually the father of the other wolves, the caretaker, and looking out for and protecting the others. David Mech even tried to get all copies of his book recalled, and to stop publication, because his initial observations were incorrect.
But, that didn't stop guys from latching on to the mistaken concept. Suddenly, everyone was a self-described alpha. To make things worse, with the influx of everyone trying to out-alpha each other, we saw the idea get further and further distorted until we have the rise of the false-alpha, the Alphole ®.
In a disastrous game of "telephone," where each person passing the concept along distorts it further and further, the concept devolved until any positive precepts of being a true "alpha" were obliterated and the idea became being a rough-and-tumble domineering douchebag that lords lords their power over others through intimidation, iron-fisted brutishness, and keeping others in their place. Despite the fact that such such immature, childish, neanderthal behavior doesn't attract anything remotely resembling a quality woman, the manosphere got hung up on the concept, which is what we see right here.
Then, circa 2010, Theodore Robert Beale comes along and coins the term Sigma male. let me tell you, my fellow pheroites, this guy is a real piece of work. Not only is he the first person, ever, to be thrown out of the Science fiction Writers Guild for being a douche, but he's said such lovely bits of misogyny such as, "women on equal footing with men is a greater threat to science than religion." You guys think I'm full of shit and cray? meet Mr. Beale, who also goes by Vox Day.
So anyway, when he isn't offending everyone else, everyplace else, he also hung around the manosphere and had an epiphany or sorts. He was looking at everyone being all alpha and shit and noted that they still all suck with women. Then he saw the naturals and the guys that actually understand women.
He, like most Alpholes ® was super-pissed off and based his conclusion upon the misconstrued idiocy of his PUA lingo, concluding that there must be another tier in the hierarchy, those that beat the living shit out of this "alpha male." He called them Sigmas, for reasons unknown, but I assume he meant it in the mathematical construct of the "the sum".
Originally described, with loathing and spite, as "those guys that don't play the social game but win at it, anyway" (proper grammar added from the original quote), the saying, once more, became distorted. What he almost hit upon was that what he called the Sigma Male was actually somebody that was too smart to get caught up in the big dick-measuring contest that the PUA community tends to make of everything.
Yes, call me out on that, but it is true. It's all about winning and winning more.
Although we do use the labels here, and other places; the meanings have become distorted, lost in a sea of pseudoscience and psycho-babble. When the totally off-base concept of the Alpha male hit the pickup artist community, it ended up becoming a "who can be the bigger asshole" contest...which I think I just won in writing this. When somebody took a look at what had happened and saw that others that didn't buy into all that bullshit were getting the lion's share, they create an ego-saving bit of lingo for ego-preservation. The Sigma is like me, an alpha, only he's not part of the pack. The Sigma is an Alpha, but he's introverted instead of in-your-face like me. The problem is that the foundation of the Sigma was conceived on misconceptions that grew from a distorted bastardization of other misconceptions.
So, let's break it all down. The modern idea of the badass Alpha ruling over all is based upon observing the violent tendencies of creatures in incarceration. If you see yourself as a modern, bad-ass, knock you down if you fuck with me, Alpha, congratulations, you've just modeled yourself after prisoners. The Sigma concept grew from observing the fallout of following such tripe but still holding on tightly to the original concepts.
What is an Alpha? A TRUE alpha is a man in control of himself, that never compromises his ideals, a man that does what is right because it is right, not because it impresses chicks or keeps the peons in line. Is he a leader? Hell yes, he is, but not because he demands it or because others just aren't alpha-enough. He leads because he motivates, inspires, and looks out for others and they follow his magnetic charisma.
With the distortion of the Alpha concept into the Alphole ®, the false alphas have sullied the image, hence the new limiting category. Now, where EVERYONE was Joe Cool Alpha, it's Sigmas, ahoy!
Be yourself, be your best self, all the time, in all ways. Don't do it because you aspire to whatever label is in vogue; do it because it helps you grow. If you grow, women will flock to you.
Now...tell me to fuck off
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