RE: Pheromones for a woman meeting other bisexual women?
02-06-2021 1:14 PM
I think that the intuition that is peeking through your prose is right on target; however things aren't really that complicated with bisexual people.
Ultimately, as you hinted at, people are attracted to others by their own set of preferences and desires. In the case of anyone, regardless of their sexual orientation, we all have our 'type'. Pheromones can spotlight and enhance certain traits we already possess, give the initial impression of us having traits that we may not truly have, or alter our self-perception (typically called self-effects) to make us feel, and thusly act, somewhat differently--usually in congruence with the pheromone vibes. One thing that pheromones do not do is alter another's preferences. They do, however, with the proper choice of pheromones, spotlight or advertise the traits others find desirable.
We all know that pheromones affect both males and females, we just tailor our applications to suit our goals. this is why heavy male alpha products sometimes result in what is called 'shit testing' from other guys, and why wearing copulins (which are a copy of female sexual excretions) tend to arouse ladies. Exactly how others are affected is a function of the pheromones,our personalities and body language, and how others perceive us. That reminds me that when dealing with a spouse, one must have patience and understanding. Your spouse has already decided how you make her feel on an emotional level. This is also confounded and compounded by the complacency that crops up in many marriages. It will take some time for your new aura to alter her feelings and perceptions of you, even assuming that you are acting in alignment (called congruency) with your new pheromone signature.
I do think that you are on either the right track, or a venue worth exploring. If a lady is attracted to more masculine women, then to me, at least, it seems obvious that fostering a more effeminate aura would be counter-productive. Likewise, if she's into the feminine women, going strong butch-alpha would probably be a faux pas. My own particular preference for ladies is women that are strong and fiercely individualistic in their personalities with a very feminine outer mien. If a potential lady-du-jour presents herself to me in physical and personality styling that doesn't align with my tastes, it greatly lessens the potential of that initial spark igniting. I assume that the same is true for pretty much anyone regardless of sex or sexuality. For me, honestly, if I get the vibe that lady is a bruiser and more manly than I (which, come to think of it won't take too much!), it just isn't my preference.
Bisexual people are no more complex than we mono-sexuals, as far as my experience has shown me. They simply like what they like times-two and whether or not there is lots of crossover of traits or looks on their Venn Diagram of attraction is solely a personal matter of taste. My wife, for example is attracted to very manly men that are strong but not overbearing and extremely feminine women that are likewise strong in drive and character. Another of our friends is attracted to feminine ladies and feminine guys. Mu buddy Calvin, on the other hand, likes macho men for his male lovers and shapely ladies for his female lovers. It all depends on the person.
As far as pheromones go, you have the advantage of knowing your target intimately, so you have a very solid idea of what she likes. Being that you two have been together for a long time, that's a good sign that your personal traits, looks, and characteristics are her type to begin with. Again I salute you for intuitively being on the right track. As you said, a relationship reset mix is probably a good starting point. If you were a male I'd probably suggest TLG by LPMP as it was designed by Snoopyace to be just that. I don't know if it works well in a lady-on-lady situation and i think only one of our revered female members (Nutrix, I think...if I'm incorrect, I apologize) has tried it. I remember reading the review and it was a positive one. But yes, I agree with your summation that a relationship reset type mix, with some sensuality thrown in to help the passion is a good venue for you to explore; so long as it aligns with your spouse's preferences in mate-material.
I hope that helps you a bit...I'll STFU now.
Edited for typos. Typing dyslexics untie!
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