The week in review
06-08-2017 5:58 PM
New target: Latina, 32, slender, brunette. Met her on a dating site. Low stated notch count which I believe based on her backstory, and generally a good girl.
Swoon & THU, 2 & 2, 75 minutes prior to meeting
First meeting was at the beach with a mild breeze, so I made sure to hug her closely and for a bit longer than is customary to maximize her exposure. I usually try to keep my first dates to one hour to leave her wanting more, and hugs only. Yeah, those rules went out the window. I think the beautification hit me on the car ride to the beachside coffee shop, because she looked better than her photos on the site. We sat and talked for 3 hours, having lost track of time. I attempted to k-close, which breaks my rules. Had I succeeded, I'd have called it an excellent on-the-ground decision. I didn't. She dodged, so it was a brutal failure that could have been avoided by following the rules of engagement.
GOA + THU 2 & 2.5 (Bad aim), 90 minutes prior
Second meeting was at the same beach, late at night. I picked her up, which gave her 20 minutes exposure in the car. Great conversation, heavy makeout session at the beach, kept escalating but could not push past the LMR. Relocated to her apartment. Continued makeout until morning. Depreciating returned on pushing LMR, so I decided to be happy with what I was getting.
This is where BarefootOxford throws the rulebook out the window.
Third meeting, outdoors, no mones. My good friend's son was having a birthday party. When he found out I had a new lady on the hook, he said to invite her and her kids to the party. So I did. And it went fantastically. I was able to be intermittently aloof and caring with this woman while I was able to observe her interactions with my friend's kids. So far, she's ticking all the boxes.
3 sprays M3X
Fourth meeting was a conventional date. Italian restaurant by the sea. BUT WAIT, that morning she says she would like to see me for lunch for meeting 4.5. I work from home lately, so HELL YEAH, come on over. She does, is rather nervous, and every time my work IM sounds off, she's asking "do you need to check that?" Makeout session, heavy petting. At lunch, she is attentive to my needs, shares her food, lets me order for her. Heavy petting after, barely leaves in time to get her kids after school.
Shower, reapply 3xM3X
Dinner date finally. She's running late, so I park and play on my phone while I wait for her. She arrives without my seeing it, and WHOA BOY she's got a stretch velvet mini dress on. I scoop my jaw up off the ground, get her in my car, and take her to dinner. When the appetizer arrives, she serves me first form the platter, and then takes some for herself. When the entrees arrive, she asks if I would like to sample hers, and graciously accepts my return offer. At one point, she caught me checking her out in the mirror next to her. She silently lets me know that she's pleasantly surprised at catching me, and I waggle my eyebrows because I am not embarrassed. The after-dinner activities were also an incremental move forward, but not quite past the goal line.
Things are going well, and I think the imprinting effects worked very well on her. She messages me frequently, saying how she misses me, looks forward to seeing me, etc. My read on the situation is that this will require a little more comfort game, and that makes me nervous because I used to be a lesser beta (on the alpha/beta/delta/gamma/sigma scale) and it's like being an alcoholic: I could completely fuck up if I allow myself too much beta behavior.
She's been asking some interesting questions, like "Why did you want to get me on a date so quickly?" and "Why did you want to go on a second date so quickly?" I was honest: "Because another man might get you on a date first, and you'd disappear. Or your mood might change and again, you'd disappear." Second "Because I did not want the good feelings to fade before we saw each other again." She seems to love those answers, and said I was right: if she'd went out with another guy, she would not have contacted me again.
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