Hey!

I have been noticing that many people are intimidated by my personality traits. After some research I discovered I do possess very strong personality traits that not many in my environment or country possess.

I will go into few traits nows and then relay a story that had happened recently.

1. My confidence and belief in myself is absolutely great.
2. I have very strong eye contact and most if not 95% of people can't hold eye contact with me, especially women.
3. I don't validate anyone.
4. No man or women would actually talk to me first unless I open them.
5. There is a ton of respect from men. No one pushes me over.
6. People are not free when I'm around its like they are scared to be themselves.
7. I have been called arrogant too many times to count.
8. I call people out immediately on their bullshit.
9. I don't fear much especially social interactions.
10. I speak absolutely freely no matter who is around me.
11. I don't settle for less at all.

There list goes on, but those are few from the top of my head.

Two days ago I had to visit a female friend in hospital. Next to her bed like 2 meters away was a guy sitting on a chair facing her. As soon as I entered the ward he woke up and went on the otherwise of the room. I didn't say a word. I didn't even use the chair.

With the above said. This type of personality does have its positives and also has a lot of negative.

What do you guys think?
Am I too intense?
Should I change my social circles?
Are people so weak now days?


Would love to hear you guys.

I see no fault in what you describe. It might be interesting for you to do the "Big Five Personality Inventory" which is available online. From what you describe I assume you score high in extroversion and conciseness and low in agreeableness and neuroticity. Not a bad place to be.

Maybe you are natural high in Androsterone to. I have a friend who is like that and he has the same issue. I posted a while ago about him.

So, if you are aware of this, you could steer your behavior to be less intimidating if you want that. Active smiling helps a lot. Open upward hands, visisible palms as well. Activity controlling tone, speed and loudness of your speech. It is incredible how powerful activly controlled behavior is. I've do that, and it is probably even more powerful than mones. I steered my behavior in more aggressive as well as in more aggreable direction, as the situation demands. That's a form of social intelligence. People are so unaware of subcommunication, if you master that And you apply mone products you are unstoppable.

A good point to start is Joe Navarro. He is a rock star. There are several talks of him available at YT. His book "What everyBODY is saying" is even cost free available online. YT channels "The behavior panel" and "The behavioral arts" are great to.

And of course with social mones (XS Bliss workes for me, Wolf is often mentioned for highly intimidating men) you could smooth the rough edges as well.

So in general I would say that this is a better point to be than the other way around. It is always easier to appear weak or stupid than it is to pretend to be strong or intelligent.

And yes, today's western young men are weaker, fatter and less resilient than ever, I think that is established.

And no, don't change your circle, you are the average of the 10 people you spend most of your time with. Don't become weak.

I can attest to the open upwards hands. it is so inviting and I sometimes get lazy man hits and girls approach from that one alone.

Try it.

I myself have an angry resting face (or a resting bitch face rofl) but I mastered being inviting with only two things. The first second I establish eye contact, I smile. And as mentioned above the open palm gesture when walking. I do that everywhere I go, and smile to everyone , young old, ugly, beautiful, attracted to or not.

The "training everywhere" is such a good advice!

I typical give it to guys who have trouble holding eye contact. Do it while you walk the sidewalks, while you shop groceries, everywhere! It's like a muscle to train, and over short or long one build a habit.

One additional comment: the most attractive trait in men is calm and self-controlled strength and even self-controlled aggression. Think of the Leonidas character in "300". The is with no doubt attractive. He is intimidating as hell, but extremely controlled even stoic. While he could be harmful, he is only to his enemies, and even than he kills cold-blooded and not in anger. With body language you could communicate exactly that.

(07-05-2023 3:51 AM)Marcus Antonius Wrote:  The "training everywhere" is such a good advice!

I typical give it to guys who have trouble holding eye contact. Do it while you walk the sidewalks, while you shop groceries, everywhere! It's like a muscle to train, and over short or long one build a habit.

One additional comment: the most attractive trait in men is calm and self-controlled strength and even self-controlled aggression. Think of the Leonidas character in "300". The is with no doubt attractive. He is intimidating as hell, but extremely controlled even stoic. While he could be harmful, he is only to his enemies, and even than he kills cold-blooded and not in anger. With body language you could communicate exactly that.

Yes I get this.

But most people are afraid of me

(07-05-2023 4:02 AM)zeroman Wrote:  Yes I get this.

But most people are afraid of me

Well, yes, I believe that. What IP and myself are saying is that you are able to change that if you want. You are in control.

(07-05-2023 4:06 AM)Marcus Antonius Wrote:  Well, yes, I believe that. What IP and myself are saying is that you are able to change that if you want. You are in control.

Most definitely.
I will work on those things.

As much as I love badwolf sales page I guess it will not mesh well with me

I can relate @zeroman.

It could be your natural mone output, as opposed to your personality.

I say this because, while I experience similar things with people, my personality is the opposite.

I'm quiet. Don't share what's on my mind often. And though I can pick up on people's BS i rarely, if ever, call them out on it.

Often times, when I'm moneless, people at work will mistake me for a doctor and start "behaving", get to work, get off their phones, etc.
I don't say anything. I don't make my presence known. I'll just be walking by.

(07-04-2023 9:31 PM)zeroman Wrote:  3. I don't validate anyone.
4. No man or women would actually talk to me first unless I open them.

6. People are not free when I'm around its like they are scared to be themselves.

8. I call people out immediately on their bullshit.

10. I speak absolutely freely no matter who is around me.
11. I don't settle for less at all.

What are the downsides of these things?

On 11 - you do settle for less, you do it all the time. This is probably just something you tell yourself to feed that ego.

(07-06-2023 2:15 PM)Macro Wrote:  What are the downsides of these things?

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I don't think these do have down sides.