Hello everyone,
I'm 44 and I've been learning all about pheromone use (mostly this site) for the last two weeks. Honestly I didn't really know these products existed (except for scams) and wish I knew about them a long time ago.
While I've learned a lot, I have to say I'm still very much confused about where to start. I have some products that I think I've picked out for starters but I want to make sure I have chosen the right ones.

So I set a specific first goal which is to spice things up in my marriage. I've been with her 20 years and she's 42. We have good marriage, great sex, but sex is not real passionate or real intimate. Also sex isn't as often as I like. It can range from 3 times a week to once every 2 weeks (usually disrupted due to period.) The monotony of family life leaves her tired at the end of the day not really thinking about me, us, or sex unless we've carved out a "date night." Honestly I get tired of trying to set a romantic mood with a woman that just wants chill, watch TV, and sleep. (I feel a little selfish as if I have needs and she has to take care of me.)

So I want to:
1) See if I can invoke a "new crush" feeling in her so she feels like it's something new.
2) Reinforce that "he's the one for me" feeling.
3) Get her thinking about sex, of course.
She likes it when I'm dominant so I guess that works well with Androstenone.

The hardest part about all of the products out there is figuring out which (primary) pheromones are in which products so I can properly mix products.
I think I want to start with:
A new crush for a few days. If that works go for "He's the one" then start mixing in some sexual products and really seal the deal (also emotionally.)
I'm even considering trying to use some oxytocin during intense intimate times to really lock her on? I'm not sure about that so I won't get ahead of myself.
The emotion and feelings are there, I just need to bring them out of her and get them on her mind.

I don't fear this marriage will fall apart but I do sometimes wonder now is the time to start doing something to proactively kick it in gear else slide into a slump. Having a young child in the house really disrupts the "us" time that we once had.

After working on my relationship with her, I might start experimenting with social and workplace use.

Thanks for any tips. I'll be seeing you guys around.

My first recommendation is don't start off with trying to mix pheromones. Use standalones first and get to know them alone. My suggestion is Alpha Dreams Certo since you are going to be using it around your wife.

Just my 2 cents.

Grail of Affection from Pheromone Treasures. Check out Snoopyace's review on this product.

Add The Hookup to your cart, also from Pher. Tres. if you want a little more of a manly kick. I've used both The Hookup and GOA in a combo called THA-HUG to good effect.

Also, if not already doing it, try initiating sex during the 1st and last days of her period. From experience, many women will poo-poo and ick-eww the idea at first, but after they've tried, keep coming back for more - to the point of initiating sex during their period.

Based on my experience if you want to spice things up, i would recommend l2k from AD. I have v.1 and v.2, v.1 is more make her taking control the sex and drive her craZy and wild i mean seriously WILD, i don't like it. With v.2 its more me taking control the sex, but still hard as v.1, so you have to choose between v.1/v.2 for your own safety, hahahaha

(04-08-2015 6:06 PM)kimosabe Wrote:  Grail of Affection from Pheromone Treasures. Check out Snoopyace's review on this product.

Add The Hookup to your cart, also from Pher. Tres. if you want a little more of a manly kick. I've used both The Hookup and GOA in a combo called THA-HUG to good effect.

Also, if not already doing it, try initiating sex during the 1st and last days of her period. From experience, many women will poo-poo and ick-eww the idea at first, but after they've tried, keep coming back for more - to the point of initiating sex during their period.

GOA was my first purchase (in the mail now.) It sounds like the perfect place to start by trying to encourage more affection and attention. Thanks for the tip on HUG, though. I might try that. I did order two other products that are NONE primary or so I might give one of those a shot instead. Then again I may just get HUG and follow your advice straight on.
One thing I've picked up on is that even though many products may contain similar mixes of mones, they can all work a little differently. Also a they don't all tell you everything that's in every blend so it's hard to tell exactly how similar they are.

My current strategy is to start with GOA alone for a while and work on her emotionally, then lay on a sexual one (possibly separately, not as a combo) on an evening that I think she'll be primed.

Thanks so much for the advice!

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(04-08-2015 9:14 PM)t-Rex Wrote:  Based on my experience if you want to spice things up, i would recommend l2k from AD. I have v.1 and v.2, v.1 is more make her taking control the sex and drive her craZy and wild i mean seriously WILD, i don't like it. With v.2 its more me taking control the sex, but still hard as v.1, so you have to choose between v.1/v.2 for your own safety, hahahaha

Hahaha!
V.1 sounds like my type of thing. I love it when a woman goes crazy and attacks me (which is rare for her.) But I know she also likes to be dominated at times so I'll pay attention as to how it affects her.
I just ordered one.

Let me know if V.1 work for you too! Usually i wear 1.5spry for v.2 1spry is enough.

(04-08-2015 5:31 PM)D'man Wrote:  My first recommendation is don't start off with trying to mix pheromones. Use standalones first and get to know them alone. My suggestion is Alpha Dreams Certo since you are going to be using it around your wife.

Just my 2 cents.

Excellent advice. Thanks. I certainly will try one product at a time in smallest doses first. I also want to try them in consistent situations and repeatedly to judge the effect. This morning she got really snugly and cling and said she didn't want to take our daughter to daycare today (which is unusual.) I attribute this to her hormones and/or cycle and see this kind of behavior about twice a month.
(to be clear, I have no products yet.)
My point is that had I been using a product, I might mistaken the behavior as a result of the product. That being said, the right non-sexual product might actually enhance this to my advantage.

Certo sounds like the ideal one for my situation. I can see this possibly being my go-to product as it sounds exactly like what I should be using for a combo of sexual and intimate bonding. (Obviously I'll have to see how it actually works.)

(04-10-2015 3:45 AM)t-Rex Wrote:  Let me know if V.1 work for you too! Usually i wear 1.5spry for v.2 1spry is enough.

When I get a chance to try, I'll check back and let you know.
What scent do you use. Are you using unscented with a cover scent or did you get a pre-scented? Which scent?

Thanks.

Welcome!

I've had LIIK v1 used on me and I QUITE liked it ^_~ I'm also a fan of LP Wanted Man and Heart Throb...if you think you can take it, check out the "Dirty Old Man" pheromone blend there too. High dose of androstenone, designed for, but not limited to, men over 40...
If you wan to start with crush/bonding, I cannot recommend Perfect Match highly enough:
https://pherotruth.com/Thread-perfect-match-oil

LP, XS and Alpha Dream all list the molecules in their products (or at least most of them) I think that's a wise way to track your success/failure - good thinking!

Happy hunting!!!

leather&steel this is so damn sexy fragrance IMO, but is up to you if you want to go to unscented.