(12-12-2022 9:02 PM)bootysage Wrote: (12-12-2022 5:14 PM)MakeShift37 Wrote: A close friend of mine is totally opposed to wearing mones because, in his words, "it wouldn't be real attraction" for a women to like him because of the mones. He worries that he'd be uncertain if a woman is truly into him or not with mones.
I feel the same way as your friend actually. What are your thoughts on that? I worry that I’m going to meet someone awesome and have a smashing good time in the beginning and then be dependent on mones to keep up the spark or whatever.
Also I voted yes
I don't think you have anything to worry about.
I'm not SUPER experienced with mones yet, but I've thought about their effects and their impact a lot. Human social dynamics and communication (in all its forms) fascinate the fuck out of me, lol.
So... Everything is about stimulus and response.
The way you look, the way you move, the way you sound, the words you use, the way other people react to you, the way you smell etc.
Yes, pheromones are affecting other people.
But pheromones are never the ONLY variable at play.
This is a huge mistake many pheromone users (and people on this forum) have been making for decades.
They incorrectly attribute cause & effect (stimulus and response) to the pheromones and only the pheromones.
In other words...
If the way you LOOK is also a variable, do you feel like it's cheating if you're wearing an awesome outfit?
What if the girl you're with sees you naked?
Or in normal clothes?
Would you be worried about losing her attraction?
...Would you have to ONLY be seen in a thousand dollar suit from now on?
If you had an awesome haircut, what happens when you let it grow out, or change your style?
And what happens if you drink coffee or alcohol (or take any other kind of drug) and your behaviour changes...
And she's attracted to you because of that?
The reality is, humans are attracted to an IDEA of another person based on the signals they convey.
We're getting philosophical here, but it may be impossible to ever truly "know" another person perfectly.
Every person you know has a "brand" to you - they represent something.
You associate certain thoughts, feelings and experiences with them.
Just the thought of that person brings up those associations.
And it's your interpretation of what they represent, TO YOU.
Worrying that someone is only attracted to you because of pheromones is, imo, misunderstanding the BIG PICTURE.
There is so much more to peoples interpretation of who you are.
The impression you make is the totality of the energy you express, AND the other persons interpretation of it.
Pheromones are just one part of that.
The excitement around pheromones, imo, comes from the fact that most humans don't even realize that pheromones are a part of the big picture.
We have a secret advantage by understanding this.
...And I LOVE having a secret advantage
The mistake that many make is thinking pheromones are the ONLY part of the picture.
Or even the MAIN part of the picture.
(And I apologize that I'm so new to pheromones and to the forum, yet I'm making this claim.)
Anyway...
Dsouza nailed it earlier when he said:
dsouza Wrote:While women have for decades been using high heels, push up bras, breast implants, fake eyelashes, collagen injected lips etc to manipulate men into choosing them.
Truth. Clothes, makeup etc. are included here too.
It's all about creating a stimulus and causing a response.
So to answer the question brought up in the OP:
I actually wish the community was as big and active as it was 10 years ago.
Those seem to have been the golden days for mones.
But everyone else is also correct that you don't want this to get TOO big, or people will start getting freaked out.
This is some powerful stuff!