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RE: DOMINATE her!
08-31-2018 4:01 PM
(08-31-2018 8:46 AM)Gladen Wrote: I have been married just over 20 years and while I don't advertise it here, my wife and I are involved in a D&S relationship, at her request.
She is a very assertive, highly intelligent, creative, and in control person; very strong. About 2-3 years ago she pulled me upstairs, disrobed, knelt, and asked me to dominate her full time: to be her Dom. While we are in that lifestyle, it is not the main defining thing about our relationship, just an awesome enhancement.
I have seen many people talk about, and read much, on what outsiders think domination is. Most either confuse dominating with being aggressive and primal in bed, or they feel that dominating someone is all about pain, humiliation, and forcing one to submit to their own desires. This is not the case.
A real, formal, D&S relationship is about trust and giving the submissive what they want, how they want it, all under the direction of the dominant. As for my wife and I, we have a signed and written contract that outlines expected behaviors on both sides, as well as a list of acceptable activities.
I think this echoes the points made by theLaw; that dominating as a sexual enhancement (provided both are into it), is fine and dandy; but very different than being an abusive 'do what i say or else' kind of douche. A real dominant doesn't need that kind of leverage, it is their personal power that give them the willingly-offered dominance over another.
For us, it has been great for building even more trust and communication in our relationship, as well as leading to many naughty times, that don't necessarily hinge on the D&S paradigm. One cannot be submissive to another if they cannot trust the person dominating them. that trust and openness has led to experimentation; and that has led to a sexual awakening within us both (more so her, I am an unrepentant hedonist)
All of that being said, one does need to be pretty alpha to pull that off. If you are not assertive then you won't be able to pull off being dominant very well, if at all.
I am still new to pheromones, but to project being assertive and alpha, AV, Bad Wolf, and a few others come to mind. These alpha-male formulas should allow you to dominate better one a one-off basis. For an extended relationship where topping and bottoming is part of the dynamic, you'd also want to project a VIP vibe, as well as to remove inhibitions and build trust.
I have been playing with M3X and AV as a combo. The m3x seems to put the wife into a hornier, less inhibited mood, and until last night I didn't think the AV was affecting her as I could see differences in strangers, but not her. I upped the application of AV just slightly, and she was all naughty talk while sitting on the couch, grabbing at my package, and more. In the bedroom she asked for all kinds of domination type stuff and was porno-worthy in her enthusiasm and desire to be dominated.
So for me...yeah...3 Av + 2 M3X with a Vetiver cover scent appears to be a winning combo for me. But take that with a grain of salt as we are already in such a fine and healthy relationship, and she and I are already incredibly into each other
Thanks, Mister!
Not the abusive type, but the TELL HER WHAT TO DO, HOW TO DO IT, and WHEN TO DO IT! I like it! I think she does, too! But I've guided her only twice. I'll know she likes it IF she keeps coming back.
To be continued ...
Today, I took a break from IRRESISTIBLE, and wore your AV:M3X mix with a twist! 3 drops of AV, 1 to each side of the neck, 1 to the back of the neck. 1 drop of New Pheromone Additive to the throat, and 3 sprays of M3X to the forearms and smeared to cover as much of the forearms as possible.
Went to a store today, and the owner, blond, married, 60 ... I'D DO HER!  We have been flirting forever, and it's been fun. I always get a hug on arrival. Not expecting anything from it. Just feeding the EGO.
Well, today after all these years, she says, "I KNOW I'M OLDER THAN YOU, BUT IF I WAS A LITTLE YOUNGER, YOU'D BE IN TROUBLE! YOU WOULDN'T BE ABLE TO HANDLE ME!"
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What the hell!?!?
Not to be outdone, I say, "THE WOULD BE YOUR SECOND MISTAKE. MY JOB IS NOT TO HANDLE YOU, BUT TO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD, BARK LIKE A CHICKEN, AND SEND YOU ON YOUR WAY!" We laughed, talked, got what I wanted, got another hug, and left.
TODAY WAS A GOOD DAY! IF ... you asked me!
I am MORE than a sausage with feet, but you, Miss, since you're sexy, you can treat me as such if you want! ALL NIGHT LONG!!
(This post was last modified: 08-31-2018 4:02 PM by MMM.)
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