You see 'phertest' I'm going through the samething. So i can relate to you here We both have what we call.... 'Oneitis'
Defitintion from web (
https://www.pualingo.com/pua-definitions/one-itis/ (Pretty good article I recommend it)
Quick Definition: A "disease" (hence the "˜itis) where a man is stuck on one girl and feels that she is "the one," usually to the detriment of having any romantic relationship with her.
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Full Definition:
Oneitis is the seduction community's play on "itis" as a disease to refer to when a guy falls hard for a girl, to the point of obsessing over her. It is often characterized by the guy making statements such as "she's the only one for me," "she's not like that," and "she's different from all the other girls."
A guy who has oneitis feels that he is in love with the girl and that no other girl can meet his needs in the way that she can. Sometimes the girl is his girlfriend and sometimes just a "best friend" that he is in love with. It can be a form of obsession.
I have always been bothered by the idea of "One-Itis" being a bad thing.
Before I complain about it or argue against it however, I want to be clear of the definition.
Does it mean
1. You are obsessed with a girl you haven't even dated.
2. You are obsessed with a girl that you used to date but broke up with.
3. You are obsessed with a girl you are dating.
For 1, this is just unhealthy I agree. However, I don't think it's bad to focus on a girl if she appears to be awesome. As long as you GO FOR IT.
For 2, totally depends on the circumstances of the break-up.
For 3, Not to be too sensitive or "unmanly" but what about "love".
Isn't it possible that you have found a girl who is very awesome. Loves stuff that you do (that girls typically don't love). Has a good sense of humor. Appreciates you for you, including your flaws. Sexy as hell, etc etc etc.
Just always confused me. Seems 90% of the guys I've came acrosss (save for a few wise men) attribute success directly to banging a girl and moving on..... Which I kinda see from you... however you adamant that you're going to stay with her after achieving your conquest which is banging her.
Interesting hamster article btw paradgimshift. Futhers my understanding of women who I group as 'Justifiers' which are women who justifies their action or behavior. For example having a one-night stand. 'It's just sex... it's not a big deal anyways.' hence the name 'justifiers'. Can see how they connect
Just like you... i've not only gotten around pheromones to play with and improve one's self. I also wanted to use it in hopes of attracting the girl who friendzoned me. Yes i had the jealousies from her stories about other guys..... and could not help myself think about her time to time because I feel like she's the one! Likewise she's a virgin as well. I wanted to get into the kissing and intimacy and sexual part as well. At times i felt like wanting to play jealousy plots to see how she'd react. As there was that theory 'You can't have jealousy without attraction'
At the end of the day i realised all im doing is manipulating her. I wouldn't be proud knowing I decieved her into attracting me through tricks and tools of seduction. I have my self respect and I really do care and value her. Infact alpha's don't need to chase. Most of the time they'd replace or natually having their crush coming to them through their character, confidence and charisma. One thing I took from the article was realizing that the world is full of beautiful and amazing women that you CAN meet.
At the moment.. i still have her at the back of my mind... but i really gotta start enjoying the fishing too to get to the 'fish' i love to catch.