Dudes and chicks are all welcome to answer.

If a guy told you (in whatever scenario you are comfortable with) that he fantasized about slapping a woman in the face while she blew him, would that make you think something in particular about him? If so, what?

Yeah, that he doesn't want to keep his pecker!

Actually, I would tend to think that the guy has control and dominance issues, and probably doesn't think much of himself.

What Mark said, and also that he does not truly respect women (although he may pretend to, or even think he does, in his outward behavior).

Ariadne, did a guy actually tell you this? I hope its not someone you're considering (BIG RED FLAG!!!).

(08-20-2010 2:01 PM)mark-in-dallas Wrote:  Yeah, that he doesn't want to keep his pecker!

(08-20-2010 2:01 PM)mark-in-dallas Wrote:  Actually, I would tend to think that the guy has control and dominance issues, and probably doesn't think much of himself.

I agree with the "control and dominance issues", but why would you think he doesn't think much of himself? I'm not disagreeing, just wondering.

It speaks volumes to me, ari. Obviously slapping a woman in the face while she's blowing him is an erotic turn on for him. Far be it from me to stand in judgment as to what turns people on and if it's right or wrong. It's only good if it's consensual. If it's consensual, hopefully, she's turned on by it in the same way so they are both on the same page. However, if she's only doing it to please him and really isn't into it, fuggedabout it. Also, she should keep in mind that the face slapping may be just the tip of the iceberg and it could quickly escalate to include other such activities that lean to serious S&M.

A little erotic slap and tickle is one thing....careful, careful, my dear...it's a tangled web to weave. :wink2:


Bella

(08-20-2010 3:40 PM)Sillykitty Wrote:  What Mark said, and also that he does not truly respect women (although he may pretend to, or even think he does, in his outward behavior).

I think he has a grudge against (some) women due to some instances from his past, but I don't think he disrespects women or is a misogynist.

(08-20-2010 3:40 PM)Sillykitty Wrote:  Ariadne, did a guy actually tell you this? I hope its not someone you're considering (BIG RED FLAG!!!).

A man did indeed tell me this. It's someone who is wanting my attentions, but I've been keeping him on a "just friends" level.

I should clarify to those who don't know: I move in D/s circles where to some this sort of thing might not make them bat an eyelash. It's the first time I've heard of slapping a woman while she's performing fellatio, though, and my initial reaction wasn't a good one. I just wanted some outside input. I googled it, and it's apparently a niche interest (but isn't everything?)

I'm not considering it, no.

(08-20-2010 5:01 PM)Bella Wrote:  Also, she should keep in mind that the face slapping may be just the tip of the iceberg and it could quickly escalate to include other such activities that lean to serious S&M.

That's what I thought too, Bella. BTW, this isn't the guy I spoke about before.

He also told me that he wants to press his forearm against a woman's neck while having sex. That one made my alarm bells ring, because I'm so not into choking.

that sounds pretty painful...
well if his partner is into that kind of stuff, then like Bella mentioned it shouldn't be a problem.

However, I would first think that he's got a really aggressive side in a not-so-good way and if he has only talked about what he finds erotic and hasn't given his ears to what she finds pleasing. Then... I'd be running the opposite direction.

A little slap here and there is fun, but if he hits you with force, that's something to give thought to.

Quote:I'm not considering it, no.

I am so glad, man I was worried!!!

Quote:He also told me that he wants to press his forearm against a woman's neck while having sex.

Okay, this guy really has problems...

(08-20-2010 4:53 PM)ariadne Wrote:  I agree with the "control and dominance issues", but why would you think he doesn't think much of himself? I'm not disagreeing, just wondering.

Well, my thought is that if a guy feels the need to dominate, control or abuse his partner, he must not have a lot of self-esteem.

Then again that's just my personal thoughts and when it comes to sex and relationships my attitude would probably be considered very conservative and old fashioned.

I made mention of the second paragraph becasue I saw your post about runnig in D/S circles and can see where your attitude and that of the psople you associate with would differ greatly from mine.

As to the asphyxiation, I agree with Selva, the guy has problems. It's one thing if the person on the receiving end is into it and asks for it, but to tell someone that you want to choke them while having sex is entirely different.

RUN, don't walk, and don't stop!