Sexual desire and orgasm are far from simple issues that can be resolved by taking hormones or popping a pill that will turn your world into varying shades of blue. There are a host of influences on your brain and nervous system that control your sex glands and genitals, and some of those influences are your very thoughts themselves.

Anxiety, defensiveness, fear, and failure of communication are destructive psychological forces that can take a heavy toll on your libido, whether you’re a man or a woman, by acting as road blocks to desire. According to Professor Gert Holstege with the University of Groningen in the Nederlands, “Fear and anxiety need to be avoided at all costs if a woman wishes to have an orgasm.”

It All Starts in Your Brain

Every erection begins in your brain. Your brain stem emits nerve impulses that control erectile function. These nerve impulses navigate through the erection center of your spinal column to the erectile tissue of your penis, where they trigger a chain reaction in the membranes of your vascular muscle cells. This sophisticated chain reaction is dependent on a messenger molecule called cyclic guanosine monophosphate, or cGMP.

However, this works in reverse as well; an erection softens as soon as another enzyme called phosphodiesterase starts to degrade the cGMP molecules.

Drugs like Viagra, Levitra and Cialis, work by inhibiting phosphodiesterase, which may help maintain your erection. But, these pills will not create an erection in and of themselves. Your initial erection still has to be triggered psychologically. Without that initial impetus, potency pills will have no effect whatsoever.

This is also why these pills are ineffective for many men who take them hoping for a magic jack-in-the-box effect.

Bigger, Better, Longer, Stronger – The Myths That Make Reality Shrivel

The pressures of “performance and potency” itself is a large contributor to impotence, and this theme is pushed continually in advertising, whether related to sexual potency drugs or the latest razor.

Studies by sexual psychologist and popular author Bernie Zilbergeld have shown that most men with potency problems believe in these advertised myths. Zilbergeld also pointed out that many of these men engage in what he called “spectatoring,” in which the man gets stuck in observing and assessing the sexual situation as if he’s an outsider, rating the woman’s expectations and what he can deliver.

And then there’s stress. But it’s not necessarily the type of stress typically portrayed by the media. Turns out the problem is rarely the work stress itself, but rather it’s a transference of work performance standards to your sex life. Approaching your sex life with that same attitude; feeling pressured to perform to certain standards, can turn the act of love into another grueling task that must be completed, and completed well.

Scientific Research is Not Altruistic

As this article points out, all this research into the mechanics of your love life is not done for some altruistic purpose. Scientists don’t necessarily care about figuring this out in order to help you understand yourself better and improve your life.

This research is done to create medications that act on your nervous system to stimulate desire, which, I believe is a travesty to love itself.

Instead of dealing with your emotional and psychological issues that are blocking you from connecting with and feeling desire for your partner, you may soon be able to take a pill that removes the very act of needing to feel anything.

One such experimental compound already under development is a peptide called bremelanotide. It works by blocking receptors in your brain that are involved in regulating basic drives such as eating and sex. In human studies bremelanotide has triggered spontaneous erections in men, and boosted sexual arousal and desire in women.

Side effects? Rising blood pressure, for starters.

As convenient as these drugs may appear, impotence drugs contribute to infertility, heart problems and can even blind you. And taking synthetic hormones in hopes of putting the spring back into your step causes all sorts of terrible health problems too.

Getting Your Sex Life Back on Track the Natural Way

Did you know that boosting your sex drive may be as easy as cutting out sugar?

According to a study published last year in the Journal of Clinical Investigation, high levels of sugar in your bloodstream can turn off the gene that controls your sex hormones.

Simple sugars (glucose and fructose), are metabolized in your liver, with the excess stored as fat lipids. Excess fat synthesis in turn deactivates your SHBG (sex hormone binding globulin) gene, causing your levels of SHBG protein to drop dramatically, and it is this SHBG protein that controls your testosterone and estrogen levels.

As you can see, there’s no end to the negative health ramifications of eating too much sugar!

Other ways to help get your sex life back on track (and improve your health as a happy side effect!) include these natural alternatives to treating sexual dysfunction:

The neurotransmitter that triggers the sexual message, in both men and women, is acetylcholine (ACH). With too little ACH, sexual activity goes down. One way to safely and effectively enhance ACH levels in your body is to take choline supplements (1,000-3,000 mg) and vitamin B5 (500-1,500 mg).


Studies have shown active men who engage in regular physical activity lowered their risk of experiencing sexual dysfunction. So start an exercise program guys! Remember, when using exercise as a drug, it’s important to set a goal of 60 to 90 minutes per day, every day. Obviously, depending on your current condition, you may need to work slowly up to this level.


Optimize your diet based on your body's unique nutritional type. We each have a unique nutritional type with varying demands for the ratios of macronutrients (fats, proteins and carbohydrates) to function optimally. This is why you may respond well to a low-carb diet while your friend on the same exact diet might not.


Because sexual dysfunction can worsen due to stress and anxiety, take control of your emotions by learning the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT). EFT is a psychological acupressure technique that can help you effectively address your stress-related thoughts and leave you feeling calmer and more able to face your challenges, whatever they may be.

Drinking lots of water is another great way to keep your libido in check. I tend to drink quite a bit of soda, but lately I've challenged myself to drink two glasses of water for every soda I drink. But of course, as we all probably know... Staying well hydrated also has much more benefits than that of sexual nature.

Interesting read terry! Thanks.

(07-25-2011 4:28 AM)txi0m Wrote:  Drinking lots of water is another great way to keep your libido in check. I tend to drink quite a bit of soda, but lately I've challenged myself to drink two glasses of water for every soda I drink. But of course, as we all probably know... Staying well hydrated also has much more benefits than that of sexual nature.

Interesting read terry! Thanks.

I certainly agree with you txi0m that our consumption of adequate amounts of good quality drinking water each day has immeasurable benefits on the health of our bodily systems, and one benefit that springs to my mind is that our endurance and strenght is greatly magnified.

One point to note with us humans is that many of us suffer from many and various ailments alergies and diseases with a majority of these relating back to considerations concerning our internal elimination system ie our plumbing, yes the clogging up of veins arterys and pancreas to name a few.

So i for one am trying to consume less refined foods oils and sugers and as you have said i also am striving to inprove my input of the consumption of quality drinking water per day.

Today was not too good 4 me with a few glasses of cola, one barley and chocolate drink with panax genseng extract, and errrrr um two small glasses of cranberry juice and a little kangen water, sure i will remember to do better tomorrow.

I just bought a new Z Flex longboard last Sunday i drove down south from Brisbane to a place called Miami which is near to the Gold Coast and Surfers Paradise, the shop is called Darkside Skateboard Shop, anyway i am getting the hang of rolling and turning on the thing however it sorta becomes a little unnerving for me whenever i get to a downhill stretch of roadway and the board and i pick up an amazing amount of speed, and learing to STOP this creature is not as easy as it looks on U Tube ..... sigh . . sticking plaster anyone SOS SOS SOS

Hey man ya blew me away with your great writing style that i noticed with your Love-Scent forum posts a little earlier, great work, The Rolling Stones have sung " The Singer Not the Song" it applies to you, as you have projected some great natural personality into the cosmos txi, its good to see that you are far away from creating an anxious state of mind within your self and that you choose to live in the present moment which is close to the source of truth. cheers 4 now . . . .

Haha..nice pharma pills...getting us to pay for our own destruction. Then without inhibitions we will "buy buy buy" more. Cardio eexercise is very important. All my female friends tell me the guys who play soccer always performed better in bed (stamina), rather than football types.

(10-17-2011 9:06 AM)PheroDemon Wrote:  Haha..nice pharma pills...getting us to pay for our own destruction. Then without inhibitions we will "buy buy buy" more. Cardio eexercise is very important. All my female friends tell me the guys who play soccer always performed better in bed (stamina), rather than football types.

Yes true and thanks for reminding me i had better get my aerobic routine back on track, its great for refreshing the cells ect and keeping the big boy in tune.

oh yeah talk about sea dog pills i took several drinks of nettle tea before bed last night with the pills and holy shit i wake up thismorning with wet dream,

she was blond with a swollen pussy i was with her for awhile like on top and holding my load 4 around 1/2 hour, next thing i know she says as i was rubbing her back " i love you " but i could not say it also, and at this point i tell her open ur legs 4 me, i knew it was time to spill my load and she shows me her pussy it is swollen and a little sore and red from our sex, so in it goes and then i look around and we are lying on the edge of the roadway and i am looking at the enterance to the airport where i have been sent for an assignment, i thought what a strange place to be spilling my load of sexual lust, it was ok because i was in up to the hilt and i awoke just as the volcano was beginning to erupt and i managed to contain a good percentage of my power ha ha

so here i am awake at 3.30 am looking for fresh jocks lol, i am glad that i awoke as i still have a decent load in the chamber for some real life adventure, and i am feelin horny phew

Yes sugars do impair our sex drive. Simply taking doses of b-12 will be all that is needed to increase our energy and sex drive by converting these lingering sugars into ENERGY as they convert carbs into ENERGY! Now you know why the number 1 ingredient in most weight loss products is........vit. B-12!

(10-17-2011 1:39 PM)terry0400-40 Wrote:  Yes true and thanks for reminding me i had better get my aerobic routine back on track, its great for refreshing the cells ect and keeping the big boy in tune.

oh yeah talk about sea dog pills i took several drinks of nettle tea before bed last night with the pills and holy shit i wake up thismorning with wet dream,

she was blond with a swollen pussy i was with her for awhile like on top and holding my load 4 around 1/2 hour, next thing i know she says as i was rubbing her back " i love you " but i could not say it also, and at this point i tell her open ur legs 4 me, i knew it was time to spill my load and she shows me her pussy it is swollen and a little sore and red from our sex, so in it goes and then i look around and we are lying on the edge of the roadway and i am looking at the enterance to the airport where i have been sent for an assignment, i thought what a strange place to be spilling my load of sexual lust, it was ok because i was in up to the hilt and i awoke just as the volcano was beginning to erupt and i managed to contain a good percentage of my power ha ha

so here i am awake at 3.30 am looking for fresh jocks lol, i am glad that i awoke as i still have a decent load in the chamber for some real life adventure, and i am feelin horny phew

Want the best cardio...........SWIM laps during co-ed open session at the local pool or gym.......never know who you might meet or what you might see...!

(07-25-2011 3:04 AM)terry0400-40 Wrote:  


Optimize your diet based on your body's unique nutritional type. We each have a unique nutritional type with varying demands for the ratios of macronutrients (fats, proteins and carbohydrates) to function optimally. This is why you may respond well to a low-carb diet while your friend on the same exact diet might not.

Any sources of information on this? Sounds really interesting.

Thanks.

talk to you soon.

(11-19-2011 4:20 AM)extraballislit Wrote:  Any sources of information on this? Sounds really interesting.

Thanks.

talk to you soon.

Thought I would chime in as yes, it is an interesting topic indeed. I think the interpretation of the unique nutritional type should be considered as instead....unique blood type. Studies show that a person with one blood type should avoid say, carbs and instead eat more protein. One blood type may need more greens instead of protein. Certain foods do well with one blood type and not with others. It has to do with a chemical change that happens to the blood when in contact with certain chemicals in the food. This is a good description.

http://www.drlam.com/blood_type_diet/

It has even been noted that allergys are associated to certain foods of people with a certain blood type. Food allergies are a number one problem with people.

http://www.4yourtype.com/allergies.asp

Personally, I don't feel the Daily Recommended Allowance for the types of food we eat with regard Dietary Pyramid, is correct. It could be doing more damage to people based on the blood type theory, then good.

My view on this is simple. In order for you body to function well and heal well, it must have the correct nutrients to do the job. If some foods are toxic to the blood, ie, wrong for the blood type, therefore it will be toxic to the organs hence causing damage as, we are what we eat. That is why it is essential for the organ transplant to be from a person with the matching blood type....the organs were "designed" for certain foods and nutrients.

Garbage in..........Garbage out.

I use to find just after doing weights, a sudden urge to grab any half decent attractive women and to have a short intense cardio session with her.

This is how I use to measure if I had a good workout. If I was not turned on after a workout it meant I did not do enough heavy compound exercises.