First of all I want to say hi to all of u pheromone users. When i first read about them I was like ''Evrika, this must be it''.

To be realistic, I don't expect much from them, just a little help where I need it cause I'm not a ppl magnet. To be optimistic, I hope this would be the aid I need to pass this hard period in my life.

Ok a little bit about my life story I'll be totally opened and will say that I have social phobia and I hope this chemicals would help me in my efforts to socialize by attracting ppl to me, making them do the first step in a conversation for example. I learned in the last years that body language counts a lot, but I suck at it, the symptoms I have (sweating, not look in the eyes, fear) betrays my fear. Of course I just look on the outside as extra shy/antisocial/ignorant.

In the last 6 years I've tried all kind of medicine and therapies and even so called ''healers'', priests with no success, so I'm just gonna have to live with it. I've also tried NLP, self confidence, social skills and body language books, some Reiki, etc. I'm getting tired of trying already

Hope the pheromones would be the edge I need into succeeding, and I want to concentrate on one aspect: girls. Hope u guys can help me. See ya all

Hi Guardian, welcome to PheroTruth!

Pheromones will not overcome all of your social anxieties, but can aid a little as long as you're also willing to put forth an effort. For example: if you appear unapproachable, no pheromone is going to make a girl walk up to you and start talking. But, if you appear relaxed and open to conversation, then she just might.

Pheromones are not magical bullets, but more like the primer. You still have to pull the trigger before the bullet leaves the chamber. As you hoped for, they can give you an edge, but cannot do everything.

I would recommend social products for you, rather than the more sexual pheromone mixes. Androtics Direct has a couple of great products that I think might be good to start with, such as Instant Shine, Instant Openness and Instant Honesty, or Come Talk To Me 2, Whcih is pretty much a combination of Instant Openness and Honesty. Instant Gentleman might be another good choice, and could also help you feel a liitle more confident.

Diane at Paradise 7 also formulates custom mixes to suit customer needs, and you might try calling or e-mailing her and explaining your situation to her and asking if she has anything that she might recommend, or could mix something up for you.

Both sites can be found in our Where to Buy Pheromones forum, along with member reviews of their products.

Best of luck to you. Be sure to come back and tell us what you got, maybe ask for advice on how to use those products, and be sure to tell us how their working for you. I look forwarrd to seeing you around the forum and reading about your phero fueled experiences.

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Hey, tx, I wasnt expecting such an elaborate answer

And also thx for pointing me in the right direction, I must agree at first I was inclined to buy some hormones to make girls initiate conversations with me (cause its hard 4 me to do it), but i'll stick to hormones that makes u look more opened/honest.

There is a variable in the equation, how do I know how much quantity from each hormone my body produce I blame my phobia for my bad socialization, but I want to believe there is a hormone that isn't secreted enough for me to be looked as more approachable to the others. Just a theory.

Anyway, this is an interesting domain, hope I'll see some improvements

Weclome to this interesting forum. Many people have similar anxiety especially with those of the opposite sex. Ive been there.
I am no expert but will say be patient with pheromones. Second and this can be hard at first is that more is not always better. It tempting to dump a ton on hoping a woman will fall in love or hop in bed with you. Not going to happen. Just take your time and they will eventually surprise you.

You came to a good place for help.

Hello Guardian

Welcome to Pherotruth

As Mark explained pheromones wont do all the work for you and I can tell you realize this already. They can help a little though by both drawing people in to you and by making you feel more confident.

I use mostly Androtic pheromones although there are a lot of good reliable companies out there. We have a review section in the Where to buy pheromones section that lists companies and reviews. I definitely would suggest Instant Openness and Instant Shine from Androtics to start. They have small to-go bottles so you can test things out inexpensively and see if this is something you want to pursue.

I see you have tried other modalities to deal with your social anxieties. Dont give up. Just posting here is a big step if you think about it. Many people with social anxiety cant even do that. The key is finding the tools from all different modalities and using the ones that fit you.

I look forward to chatting with you in the forum. If you need help or have any questions just jump right in and ask.

Tisha

Whoops sorry for the double post but I wanted to address your question.

Quote:how do I know how much quantity from each hormone my body produce I blame my phobia for my bad socialization, but I want to believe there is a hormone that isn't secreted enough for me to be looked as more approachable to the others

Well without medical testing no one can really say what hormones your making or lacking. Its not really the lack of hormones though its the lack of certain neurotransmitters in the brain can cause phobia and anxiety though. Certain hormones secreted from the body as pheromones stimulate the neurotransmitters. This is how pheromones work.

Usually if your anxiety is caused by a chemical imbalance its your Cortisol, serotonin and dopamine that are off. If its your hormones it can be a imbalance between estrogen and progesterone. There are various ways to deal with this chemicals in the body. I tend to take a holistic approach myself. What is your diet, general health and fitness like ?

It can also be caused by heredity or life experiences. Are your parents social or more with drawn ? Have you had any life experiences that you can recall that could have triggered your anxiety ? These are all things to consider and something I talk about with my clients. Just so you know my job is with the post office but I am also a life coach and this is what I love doing. (dont worry not trying to sell you anything I help people free here)

The trick is finding the root causes of your phobia and addressing those. I find its usually a combination of factors.

I dont usually tell my clients one sure fire way to beat their social phobia but combine tools, tips and tricks from different methods to find a method that is taylored to them more. We are all different with different body chemistries and life experiences and this may be why you have had trouble finding the "one" solution.

There are a lot of pheromone users who suffer from social anxiety to some degree. I am glad your here so you can share your experience's and we can share ours and help each other.

Tisha

Well, about my life style, bodybuilding was my passion (and still is to some degree) and also I've learned what, how much and when to eat. Of course there is much more to learn, I've used to keep track of meals and note them down to keep track of the calories, carbs, proteins, fats.

Just yesterday I was searching for a gym in my area to go to in this new area i'm living. Last one I was at had no free weights, no dumbbells It's said that lifting weights releases endorphins in your brain, well thats absolutely true. I also used to take vitamin, minerals and other supplements, no steroids, thought i'm temped to use estrogen and progesterone like u said to see if it makes any difference. As for the brain hormones, I use meds from the SSRI class, but they mostly act as to keep the depression at a bearable level.

And about my parents, you got me, my father is kinda' shy, although my mother is a social butterfly, where did that genes go ? I was born a shy kid, at kindergarten I was referred to seeing a psychologist for not being able to socialize well with others, but they all said: it will pass with age. So I guess the root is in genes too, being born like that....in some extent.

Anyway, the first for me would be to distribute flyers, whitout and with phero's on me, I'll tell u how it goes. Now to get to business