Hello everyone,

Here's my trouble: a couple of years ago, TG and I had a falling out (a combo of him kissing me/him freaking out/me freaking out in return and telling him I don't love him)
Ever since, things have been tense between us, although with time and a bit of effort things seem to be getting back on track little by little.

However, one "problem" area remains: we're unable to bond and communicate like we did before, and it feels stiff. He comes close, then backs off again, or does some OTT gesture, then runs off... and he doesn't cuddle me like he used to (ever since I said I didn't love him).
I'm a bit afraid to broach the subject with him, or even tell him that he's the one I want to be with.

What I'd like is to have a boost that'll encourage him to return to a more communicative mood, and for us to bond like we did before. Any suggestions? I've pretty much run out of my AD things and looking to purchase from Love Potion instead, as AD has not been re-stocking what used to be my arsenal.

Hi,

Any formula which is loaded up with a lot of estratetraenol, alpha-androstenol, and beta-androstenol will work well for this purpose. The estratetraenol will entrance him and make him feel really good around you, the alpha androstenol will encourage him to be more open and communicative with you, and the beta androstenol will promote a strong bond.

You might even want to create your own formula for this.

P.S. Our Alfa Donna contains 9 mg (9000mcg) of estratetraenol, and 7 mg (7000mcg) of alpha-androstenol per bottle.

Takhisis, Sorry to hear that things went off course with youy and your TG. But, I've got to be honest and say that if I liked a woman and she told me that she didn't love me, even if it was after an akward kiss, I would not try to inititate anything or be at all romantic toward her again.

I think it's kind of on you to mend the rift, and I think that you've got to let him know and SHOW him that you either do love him or are at least capable of loving him.

From what it sounds like, he seems to want to get past the akward kiss, but may be afraid of trying to really bond with you or communicate on a deep level because he's afraid to try again out of fear that you'll reject him again.

My suggestion would be to just tear off the bandaid and confront the situation. Broach the subject by telling him that you made a huge mistake a couple of years ago and you want to let im know that you've regretted it ever since. That should at least have him asking what the mistake was, and open the door to discussing the situation and moving past it.

If you don't feel you can initiate such a talk, then you could also try starting out a little slower by giving him a few little somethings to let him know that you care more than he might think, and he is the one for you.

Taking the phero advice Chris suggested should also help get him to feel more comfortable, willing to open up and let himself care and drop the wall he's built around himself.

(11-24-2010 10:04 AM)Alpha Dream Wrote:  Estratetraenol, alpha-androstenol, and beta-androstenol

Thanks for that

(11-24-2010 10:04 AM)Alpha Dream Wrote:  You might even want to create your own formula for this.

It's been a while since I've dabbled with Pheromones, so I was thinking going consummer products first, to get back on the wagon so to speak.

(11-24-2010 11:34 AM)mark-in-dallas Wrote:  Takhisis, Sorry to hear that things went off course with youy and your TG. But, I've got to be honest and say that if I liked a woman and she told me that she didn't love me, even if it was after an akward kiss, I would not try to inititate anything or be at all romantic toward her again.

I think it's kind of on you to mend the rift, and I think that you've got to let him know and SHOW him that you either do love him or are at least capable of loving him.

From what it sounds like, he seems to want to get past the akward kiss, but may be afraid of trying to really bond with you or communicate on a deep level because he's afraid to try again out of fear that you'll reject him again.

My suggestion would be to just tear off the bandaid and confront the situation. Broach the subject by telling him that you made a huge mistake a couple of years ago and you want to let im know that you've regretted it ever since. That should at least have him asking what the mistake was, and open the door to discussing the situation and moving past it.

If you don't feel you can initiate such a talk, then you could also try starting out a little slower by giving him a few little somethings to let him know that you care more than he might think, and he is the one for you.

Taking the Pheromone advice Chris suggested should also help get him to feel more comfortable, willing to open up and let himself care and drop the wall he's built around himself.

Normally, after the whole fiasco, I'd just write the whole thing off, but there's something that draws me back, every time and kinda compells me to fix it rather than just leave.
And I think there's hope, because there are times where he seems to really warm up again (usually followed by an episode where he's icy).

I know it's "my fault" for having said something completely dumb (not to mention untrue) and that fixing it is on me. But lily-livered as I am, I don't feel up to initiating that talk without a bit of help opening him up again.

(11-25-2010 5:20 AM)Takhisis Wrote:  I know it's "my fault" for having said something completely dumb (not to mention untrue) and that fixing it is on me. But lily-livered as I am, I don't feel up to initiating that talk without a bit of help opening him up again.

Well, that's its been a couple of years and he's still around soes say something. I don't blame you for wanting something to help open him up before discussing it, and I'm sure that I'd do the same.

I don't know if you ever read my journal over at the other PT, but I had kind of a similar situation happen a couple of years ago myself. It was with the olympian that I was dating and we moved in together, then 3 days later she we were sitting on the sofa watching TV and she mentined her "one true love" and how she'd never love anybody like she loved him again.

And that was it for me! I moved into the second bedroom (which I was using as an office) the next day, and tried to just be friends with her. She was not much of a friend and a terrible roommate though, and 4 months later I ended up telling her she had to find someplace else to live.

During that 4 months, there were a couple of brief times that we seemed to get along pretty well and I felt that she may have wanted for us to get back together, but she never touched on what was said, and and I wasn't about to.

I mentioned what I went through, because I can see parallels with wha tyou're going through. When we were getting along I'd also warm up, but when nothing would come of it I'd turn to ice too. I didn't break us, and I wasn't going to try to fix us and maybe get smacked in the face again.

Anyway, I do hope that you're able to repair your relationship and get back to where you were, or where you want to be.

(11-24-2010 9:57 AM)Takhisis Wrote:  What I'd like is to have a boost that'll encourage him to return to a more communicative mood, and for us to bond like we did before. Any suggestions? I've pretty much run out of my AD things and looking to purchase from Love Potion instead, as AD has not been re-stocking what used to be my arsenal.

Love Potion does have some good blends just for this. I would suggest True Confessions, Treasured Hearts (actually those two in combination make a great combo), also along those same lines would be Heart and Soul, or the new Perfect Match. Good Luck!

At Love Potion try True Confessions...could loosen your tongue as well and help you say what needs to be said!

And what seems to work for men around me (I wear a bit of it in different perfumes, in public and private) is BAM - that's Beta Androstenol and cops. Seems to bring out the emotions...

If you go with Chris' suggestions of est & a-nol - that would be LACE at Love Potion.
If you want Est & b-nol, try Sexology...

Work up that nerve and be truthful! The Pheromones might give you a tiny impetus in the right direction, but clearing the air is on you...wish you all the best!

Is instant honesty available in AD? If so I'd suggest you to get Instant Honesty or Instant Openness and some EST from Love Scent to make him feel comfortable and very open.

However, I personally think you shouldn't depend on Pheromones for this though. I think you should consider to show him how you truly feel about him, if you love him do things that show him affection perhaps thoughtful things that he'll appreciate. In this case action means more than words when it comes to love (no pun intended).

Good luck babe, I hope it works out for you!

(11-24-2010 10:04 AM)Alpha Dream Wrote:  Hi,

Any formula which is loaded up with a lot of estratetraenol, alpha-androstenol, and beta-androstenol will work well for this purpose. The estratetraenol will entrance him and make him feel really good around you, the alpha androstenol will encourage him to be more open and communicative with you, and the beta androstenol will promote a strong bond.

You might even want to create your own formula for this.

P.S. Our Alfa Donna contains 9 mg (9000mcg) of estratetraenol, and 7 mg (7000mcg) of alpha-androstenol per bottle.

I just received my first order of Alfa Donna , love the scent and am still trying to gage any impact on my BF.Also have Could I simply add beta - androstenol from your single molecules to the bottle ? if so , which concentration?

thank you !